Being A Male Escort - The Real Story Behind "Gentlemen For Hire"

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From the day I watched the show Gigolos, something within me changed. I was a normal guy like everyone else with a day job but deep down I had conflicting personas.  I wanted to do something that I was really into but societal norm dictated I stick to my job, pay the bills and sing kumbaya. Well at least until the day I went to audition as a model. It didn’t work out but a lady pulled me aside and said I would be perfect as a male escort. My mind flashed back on the Gigolos. I said yeah, got her card. Next day I show up at the address. First thing I hear is “welcome to Gentlemen4Hire we’ve been expecting you, this way, please…” After a few formalities, I am a member.

The first week in the job and I find out it’s not what I imagined … ooh! There’s more than meets the eye.

You’d think that with our society becoming more and more acceptable of people’s flippant use of hook-up apps, the growing acceptance of people’s sexuality, prostitution, and sugar dating, the knowledge that almost everyone watches porn yet the hypocrisy of prejudice still exists and so is the stigma on being a male escort.

There is a general consensus among people outside and within the industry that the demand for a straight male escort is so much lower than the demand for bisexual or gay male escorts. In truth, it is but in this niche it is not about the sheer size of the number of clients, it’s about the size of the pockets of your clients. You don’t necessarily need a large clientele to succeed as a straight male escort. Trust me I know this because many of my colleagues who happen to focus on just one client have benefits way beyond their imagination. Let’s just say there are perks for being exclusive. I would have gone that route myself. I’ve had many clients offer me such private deals but declined due to personal ambition.  

I will say this though, if you're looking to get into this line of work, you need to know that it’s like any other job. You need to be passionate, presentable, well-groomed, stylish, charming and attractive, not necessarily a James Bond type but you need to drink your Vodka Martini shaken not stirred, if you know what I mean. Your fitness game needs to be top too. The Gentlemen4Hire escorts are straight, confident, emotionally stable, and possess a genuine respect for women.

Often I get asked if I get paid to sleep with women

The answer is NO.

My clients are usually wealthy, high-end women thirty-something and above. Most of them are divorced, some married.

The most common requests would be dinner at a fancy restaurant, some drinks in a VIP Lounge. Some of my clients take me to birthdays, family dinners, weddings where I play the role of an accomplished stock broker boyfriend.

Basically, I am a date for hire, to show off to friends at events, where I’d be acting as a boyfriend for the event.

With the roles I play, some might say I’m not being honest. Well in this job, women want you to be lots of things. It’s not enough to be handsome or attractive, you need good communication skills, the ability to take charge but blend in by getting into character.  That is the way to score points with the ladies. One more thing Gents while you are at it, learn how to play an instrument, sing and dance. More on that later…

I had a client who wanted me to dress up as her dead husband. Another wanted me to dance like Channing Tatum in the movie Magic Mike XXL. Lucky for me I learned some dance moves from Channing and I nailed it.

There was one woman, she was in her 40s and wanted us to play a scene in Game of Thrones. I would be Karl Drogo and she will be Calesi. She even bought the costumes with the wig included. We took many photos and for the rest of the hour she laid in my arms and we talked about Game of Thrones.

Of course, I’ve had some very weird requests from clients.

A client once asked me to dance naked but I declined politely an offered a dance session.

I remember I was at a bachelorette party with a client who was a successful businesswoman in her late 30s, but looked younger than her age. She was divorced and wasn’t doing so well in the dating arena. I remember the team saying  “boy this is a hard one… she is tough as nails”. Five minutes into my time with her I could see why … boy oh boy she was smart! No matter what topic I brought up, be it in business, politics or sports, specifically tennis (when it comes to sports, football is a no go area) she had something to say about it. I knew I was losing ground fast because nothing worked and each maneuver went to waste and I could see disappointment looming on her face. A moment of grace came when she uttered her frustration about the DJ’s choice of music. EUREKA! Ok, “Johnny” time to go be the captain. I went over to the DJ and said in his ear to flatter that woman and step up the music a notch. I danced with her and we became the star on the dance floor with everyone watching as I took her into my arms.  I performed some slick dance moves and I curled my hand in her hair & put it in the back of her ear … in my career as a male escort, that was the comeback of the century. 

She is now my biggest and most generous client.

That one dance has taken me places I would have otherwise just dreamed of.

Like I said, this job has its perks and you reap the rewards only if you are passionate about it.