Charming Escorts and the Art of Conversation

You watch a movie about an escort – it’s all about the sex. You read an escort’s website and scan over the prices – it’s all about the sex. You read reviews about a companion and it’s all about how inviting her body was – it’s all about the sex.

However, - this might come as a bit of a surprise – it isn’t all about sex in this industry. Of course, physical intimacy is an important aspect of it, but half of what escorting means to clients is forgotten in the current social discourse because nobody advertises the more therapeutical aspects of seeking and meeting a companion.

To people who are new to the escorting world, the fact that most customers seek out companions to talk, more than anything else, usually comes as a shocker. However, when you get down to the bare bones, you realise that you can’t have good sex without intimacy, and you can’t have intimacy without an honest connection. Sure, put two open-minded people together, who are attracted to each other, and they can fuck their brains out with the only conversation being dirty talk. But most people aren’t like that. They don’t open up instantly. This is why escorts have to become skilled conversationalists and, by all accounts, therapists if they want to succeed in their chosen profession.

First rule to doing so is to be as discreet as possible. Talented companions are more than what their name suggests, they are also great confidants. A man who is looking to book an escort is looking for more than a roll around the hay; he’s looking to escape his daily routine, but do so privately. As an escort who has encounters on a regular basis, you must remember that your clients do not. For many of them, your meetings are clandestine, taboo. They are opening up to you in ways they probably do with very few people. And that level of trust must be respected and appreciated.

Secondly, ask your clients what they are expecting from you, why they want to meet with you. Don’t just assume it’s for sex or that it’s only for sex. Even if the client says it’s just for that, trying to get a more in-depth explanation, without seeming too insistent, could go a long way towards consolidating a long-term relationship with your customers.

Thirdly, be genuinely interested in your clients and their lives, and offer cues to assure them you are actively listening. Ask them questions, nod and don’t forget to smile! Even saying “Tell me more” and not much else could go a long way.

You can also be empathic by offering personal examples that fit within your clients’ stories, but stray away from giving too many details about yourself. Firstly, because he hasn’t hired you to talk about yourself too much. Secondly, because it’s important you maintain a high degree of anonymity in your encounters. Don’t get too serious though. Flirt, and help your client forget about his worries!