Even Escorts Face Stress and Depression. Learn How to Fight It!

You girls know better what stress looks like in the escort business. The fully booked days or in the contrary, the lack of clients, the trips, the constant reinventing, the roles that you have to play, the client’s emotional baggage, the frustration and the public disapproval, all those things in time pile up and lead to anxiety and depression.

So girls, don’t forget you are in a tough line of work and you are prone to emotional distress! That’s why it’s essential to understand the importance of dealing with stress and depression, while it occurs, with the help of a specialist.

You are an open-minded escort and the thought of having a therapist shouldn’t discourage you. But the contrary, a specialist can help you unload all the emotional baggage gathered from your clients but also from your personal life.

First of all let’s see:

What is STRESS

Stress is the body’s response to a good or bad experience that takes place around you and can trigger an anxiety response.

Stress can be caused by different things. That’s why we can talk about several types of stress, form survival stress and internal stress, to environmental stress and overwork or burnout.

Internal Stress is the kind of stress that appears when we worry about things that it’s not in our power to change; it appears when we make ourselves stressed. Sometimes, involuntary, we look for situations that can keep us under stress – this results in a hurried and tense lifestyle that we become addicted to.

Environmental Stress is the stress produced by the noise, by crowded places and streets and by pressure at work or at home.

Survival Stress is the bodies response to danger, when you think something can hurt you and you can choose how to react – “fight or flight”.

Overwork or Burnout is the type of stress that builds up over time, because of a long period of hard work. When it is not managed properly, this type of stress can lead to serious health problems.

What is DEPRESSION

Depression is associated with intense feelings of sadness, hopeless and worthless. Feeling all the emotions above is a normal thing until you reach the point when those emotions last more than a couple of weeks, and interfere with your normal functioning.

Now that you have useful info on what stress and depression are, let's talk a bit about sleep. Having a hectic schedule can, and will (most often than not), lead to stress. Which, in turn, is going to affect your sleeping pattern in many negative ways. You will have high blood pressure and gain weight. The most important way to avoid these situations is to sleep at least eight hours per day. Don't waste time in bars till the wee hours of morning. A good night's sleep works wonders for your concentration and happiness levels!

Tips & Tricks On How To Fight Stress

1.      Take a minute to meditate

Remember that the world won’t stop if you take a short break! A few minutes of meditation can help you get rid of anxiety. You are an energetic person and sitting still for a couple of moments it’s a hard task? Well you will be surprised how simple it is!
Try this when you are between bookings: sit up straight with your feet on the floor, put your hands on your belly to synchronize the breathing, close your eyes and repeat yourself a positive thought, like “I feel peaceful”; “I love myself”.
You will be surprised to see that by the time the next date will show up you will feel relaxed, with all the emotional baggage of the former client released!
Remember to breathe deeply! Try this exercise (this is also useful to calm you down, when you are with a difficult client): inhale a couple of times slowly through your nose and exhale through your mouth, now reverse the process inhaling through your mouth and exhaling through your nose.

2.      Take a good belly laugh
A good laugh releases stress and boosts brain chemicals, endorphins, responsible of our good mood. You feel that you don’t have any reason to laugh hard?
Call a good friend and remember with her old funny memories, watch your favorite stand-up comedian or a favorite show. Do something to unwind and relax.

3.      Go hiking

Practicing a sport is another great way to unwind after a long night's (or day's) work. It also helps you fight against anxiety and depression if you ever experience any of these disorders. Take your friend along if you don't like to do it on your own. Getting in touch with nature while you move your body beats any sort of pill you might think of taking. Plus, you can shed those extra few pounds you've been worrying about lately!

4.       Drink tea
We know that coffee and energy drinks helps you keep on going with your busy program, but those are high caffeine drinks that makes you go into overdrive.
Instead try drinking green tea. Not only does it has less caffeine, but it has healthy antioxidants and amino acids that sooth the nervous system.

5.      Turn up the volume
Soothing or energetic, music helps you relax! And when you relax your blood pressure lowers, and so does your heart rate and the anxiety feeling.
You can opt for relaxing nature sounds or you can blow off steam with more upbeat tunes.
 
When our little stress release tricks don’t work, that’s a sign that you should look for some professional help. The public taboo on this matter has been gone for years, so more and more people are looking for the guidance of a psychologist.

Many wonder why an escort could need the help of a psychologist but those persons don’t see beyond the image of “easy money and relaxed lifestyle” that the escort business is selling to the public.

You think you don’t need professional help?

Here are some reasons why you should talk to a psychologist from time to time.

I. If you have several dates in one day, think only of the emotional baggage that every client brings and unloads on you. All his problems and negative energies are being transferred to you and at the end of the day you feel exhausted and burdened by their problems.
That’s why once in a while you need to be the one that unloads her problems…problems with the clients, with the family, friends and so on. You need someone that can listen to you and offer you the right tools to go through your hard times.

II. Every client with his own fetish! One date you have to be the sexy mistress that possesses him with a whip in her hand, while the next date you have to play the role of an innocent, angelic girl, ready to be initiated into the art of sexual pleasure.
This is only an example of how versatile an escort must be, and in order to be successful she must play her part in a convincing way. But playing all those parts makes you, as an escort, challenge your identity, risking that one day you’ll lose your real personality to your marketed image.
This is a real problem that makes you question your own personality, asking yourself who you really are, which of the roles are you playing daily represents the real you.

III. Trust issues and fear of intimacy – this is another problem that an escort encounters in her profession.
When you know that you can never completely trust the stories that your clients are telling you, and when you are dealing with clients that you can’t trust and that disappoint you daily, it is normal to face with trust issues.
But remember that those kind of problems can affect your personal life, the trust in others and the ability to form new relationships.
Also many of you girls confront with fear of intimacy, because what you give to your clients it’s your time, your skills and your body, but you fear to build a meaningful relationship with someone in your personal time.

IV. Another issue that should be discussed with a psychologist is the self-worth problems. This problem appears when you start questioning your worth beyond the physical aspect. When everyone says “you are so beautiful”; “you have such nice boobs”; “your butt is phenomenal”, you feel like everything about you is related to your looks and that can make your self-worth problems appear. Add to this mix the public judgement and that’s how all the insecurities occur.

 
Those are just a few example of the problems that an escort has to deal with and that if are left undiscussed can lead to stress, anxiety and in the end depression.

Don’t treat this subject easily because a depressed person is an unhappy person, and without a good state of mind you can’t be productive and you can’t be successful in the escort industry.