Is dating an escort, cheating?

If a person is booking the services of a professional escort, does that mean that he/she is cheating? That’s a question that many of us are thinking without having a clear answer in mind.

Is it dating an escort the same as having an affair?

We say it is not!

But the answers vary depending on what each of you consider to be an act of cheating on your partner. For some flirting with a person from the opposite sex is cheating, for others it is called an affair only if the relationship is a long term one and it involves dating the same person, while others consider cheating only when emotions are involved.

An escort date is not the same as an affair because dating an escort is all about having non-emotional sex, about carnal pleasures fulfilled with no strings attached, even if the client happens to see that date multiple times, as long as the date is strictly sex related, we honestly can’t think of it as cheating.

Paying for sex, for some, is a gesture of desperation, an act typical for older men or for those that can’t “get some” the old fashion way, thorough flirting, and dating. But nowadays, when we think about dating an escort we must see the big picture, stay open minded and be connected to both sides and points of view.

For the escort, dating a client and getting intimate with him is not about constructing the foundation for a relationship, or about fulfilling her emotional needs, it is strictly business, a matter of giving and receiving. And in this case, the escort gives her time and erotic expertise, without expecting in return any kind of emotional investment from her client.

While for the client booking an escort, is all about fulfilling a sensual need, about turning a fantasy into reality, experiencing things that he feels are inadequate to bring in the intimacy of a relationship, about exploring a darker side of erotic pleasure, about gaining experience as a lover and so on.

But what is cheating?

Cheating – to deceive, trick, victimize, to get an unfair advantage or to violate rules of regulation.

And here raises the question: What are the rules of regulation?

Every partnership has its own rules and so does every human being. The moral rules are totally up to us, depending on how we feel about a situation, how we see things and how we define partnership, fidelity, and commitment.

For some of us oral sex does not count as cheating, for others sexual pleasure is not cheating as long as emotions are not involved, while other couples consider cheating only when a relationship between two sexual partners goes on for more than just one date.

If you have doubts when it comes to escort dating, you can ask yourself the following questions:

Is dating an escort just a form of releasing sexual tension and stress?

Is dating an escort a way for you to improve your sexual skills?

Is dating an escort a way for you to explore a darker side of your sexuality, no emotional attachment involved?

Do you feel like you’re damaging your personal relationship, by occasionally having no-strings attached sex, with an escort?

And now think of your answers and you can see why our point of view stands true: escort dating is not an affair, casually dating an escort with no-strings/no-emotions attached is not cheating. But is this cheating, from your standpoint?