Is he GHOSTING you? Spot the warning signs!

Ghosting is a social phenomenon that seemed to be more and more frequent nowadays. No matter the reason, the fact that we tend to be ghosted by lovers, friends, and clients, is a hard reality that many of us are facing.

What is GHOSTING?

Ghosting is a way of cutting off all connections with a person without giving that person any signs of your intentions, in advance. Ghosting means suddenly disappearing out of someone’s life for good, without notice.

The term seems familiar, right?

How many times a client that you were supposed to meet for a date ghosted you on the last minute? How often were you ghosted by a partner or even by a regular, without notice?

Yes, ghosting is a real thing, and appears to happen to the best of us. It’s like common sense and social norms have left the building and left instead a new norm: leaving a conversation/relationship, out of the blue, without any warning or feeling of closure.

How often did it happen to you, to talk to a client for days, answer all his questions, set all the details of the date, talking about what he wants you to wear and what he desires you to do to him, only to disappear into thin air, without a word, leaving you feeling like you’ve lost your time and energy for absolutely nothing?

But wait, not only new clients can ghost you, but even regulars tend to do it now and then. The reason is simple: the wife/partner found out about how he used to spend his free time, and now he’s playing it low, or he has found someone else to replace you with and he doesn’t have the guts to let you know about it.

In this situation the best thing to do is know the signs and be mentally prepared for when someone is trying to ghost you!

Signs that he is ghosting you:

• Suddenly he’s going from long messages to one-word texts. This is a warning sign that he’s about to ghost you.
• Any talk of the future is met with complete silence from his behalf. And here we’re not talking only about a future date, or a future weekend spent only the two of you. We are talking about you trying to turn it into a regular thing and him leaving you hanging.

For example, if he mentions a dish he’s obsessed about and you invite him to a new place in town that serves that exact type of food, but he declines, or even worse, treats you to awkward silence; or if he says something about a long-time fantasy of his and you drop a hint that next time, you’ll make that fantasy a reality for him, and he just sits there in silence, or acts like he didn’t hear what you just said, all these are clear signs that he’s not interested and if you further pursue this, he’s going to ghost you.

• The non-committing language is a valuable clue that he’s going to ghost you. So, if he says that he’s “looking for a great provider to see on a regular basis, but he’s not in a rush and he’s just browsing through the possibilities”. Ladies, he’s not going to be your regular client, he’s all talk and no action!
• If he cancels on you on the very last minute, don’t do the mistake of booking him again next time, because he might just do the same, and just be a time waster that’s ok with just talking to you, jerking at the sound of your voice, or he’s a collector, gathering pics from hot escorts for his private collection.
• If you’ve been through all the details of the date, but he’s still finding excuses to ask for more from you: more details, more pics than the ones on your website, more phone talks and so on, ladies run cause you’re losing your time and this guy will for sure ghost you on the day of the actual date.
• If he makes plans with you for future dates without even seeing you once, then this is another red flag that you’ll be ghosted when the real date should take place. There are a lot of guys that find satisfaction in only talking to an escort and setting the details of an encounter, without having the balls to go through with their plans.
• If your gut is telling you that something is wrong with the guy that contacted you for a session, always choose to listen to your intuition and run. The chances are that your intuition is on point, and you’ll end up losing your time chatting with a guy that will only ghost you in the end.

Ghosting is a real thing and something that happens all around us. What you can do is pick up on the signs that appear while chatting with a potential client, or even with a regular, because the quicker you get what he’s about to do, the quicker you can step back and go on chatting with someone that will end up booking you.