Is someone following you? This is how to deal with a stalker!

Working as a professional escort has its pro’s and con’s, and while the benefits are real and pretty significant, there are also some shady things to consider when practicing this job. The long hours, the stress, having to deal with all kind of different and frustrated people, the stalkers and so on.

But, today we are going to focus our attention on stalkers, how many types of stalkers are there, how can we identify them and how can we stay out of trouble when someone starts acting bizarre, when it comes to us.

You may think that stalkers are only in movies or that being stalked by someone is not something that can happen to you, but did you know that one in 14 women has at least one stalker during their life? Yeah, it’s a big, scary number that should make you more alert and careful when judging the people and the events around you.

There’s no such thing as being too careful in this line of work, especially when you have to meet new people daily, reject some of them and maybe offend their feelings by not accepting their favours. So, be very alert when it comes to dating new clients and screen them accordingly.

You may be tempted to just walk around the city with your head in the clouds, daydreaming, but as a pro escort you must always pay extra attention to the people around you, their actions, looks and moves, because you may never know when someone sketchy is following you!

Having a stalker when working as an escort is not something out of the ordinary, but it may lead to a potentially dangerous situation for you. That’s why it’s vital to know what kind of stalkers are there and how to deal with one if necessary!

There are many types of stalkers and knowing in witch category yours fits, will offer you a clue on whether he is dangerous or not and if he will turn to violence or keep his distance.

1. The Rejected Stalker

Is the most common and potentially dangerous type of stalker, because is the one that pursues you after you’ve rejected him or dated him once and then rejected his further attempts of booking you.

The rejected stalker is dangerous because it has mixed feelings regarding you, wishing to hurt you in order to get revenge for being rejected in the first place and also wishing to regain your favours. This type of stalker can get violent when rejected multiple times so you must be really careful with him, announce the people you trust about his behaviour and even go to the officials if you feel even a little bit threatened!

2. The Spiteful Stalker

Is very dangerous cause it may be a little paranoid and may have the desire to frighten and scare you. He does not resume at stalking, but can go to persecuting his targeted victim. He may feel that you haven’t treated him right and that you have deliberately put his masculinity in a bad light. Taking measures like having a friend scare him off, may do more harm than good, so consider going for legal sanctions.

3. The Predatory Stalker

May have previous convictions for sexual offenses and is the most dangerous of them all because he is looking to sexual assault his victim. So, if you’ve just rejected a client and he didn’t take it too good and now you are feeling followed, be very careful, go to the authorities, do not go to dates alone, instead ask a friend to accompany you till you feel safe, do not walk the streets or shady parts of town alone and try moving with a friend or family or have someone move with you.  

Also, having a predictable schedule can help your stalker know your every move, so ditch your routine – like the time you go for a run, or to the gym or to do groceries. The predatory stalker does not give warnings regarding his dangerous intent, so it’s better to be a little more paranoid when it comes to your own safety.

4. The Socially Un-Adapted Stalker

Is often limited intellectually, having difficulties adapting to social norms and communicating with women. He will try to get in touch with you, looking for more than just sex. This type of stalker is interested in developing a relationship and he will act accordingly. He is not romantically attached to you, he just wants to gain your attention and favours. HE needs medical treatment or else, after giving you a hard time he will move on to another victim to stalk! 

How can you deal with a stalker?

Dealing with a stalker can be a tricky thing to do because there is no perfect approach that will 100% ensure your safety and him stopping the stalking behaviour. The technique that gives the best results when it comes to a stalker is a combo between the help offered by a mental health institution and the law enforcement officer that can keep him out of dangerous behaviours.

• Intimidation can do more harm than good!

Having someone you know “talk” with the stalker and intimidate him in order to make him stop stalking you, can do more harm than good because it may provoke the stalker or even humiliate him and that means that he will become even more dangerous for its victim! So, do not take matters into your own hands, because direct action can trigger his aggressive behaviour.

• Do not fall for the false sense of security!

A protective order may help you when dealing with a stalker but that may turn out to be a false sense of security. Instead, be careful, filter the clients you’re about to date, choose to go to outcalls in public places, not the client’s residence and try dating clients you’ve known in the past. Try not to follow a daily routine, so that your schedule won’t be predictable for your stalker and try to have a friend close when you are not in crowded, public places.

• Days with significance can trigger the stalker!

Be extra careful on the days when your stalker is going to be handed a protective order or a court hearing or on the days that may have a certain significance to him – like your birthday or the day you’ve had your first date or maybe a holiday.

During these days and types of events his narcissistic personality may be triggered and also his sense of humiliation and that may lead him into doing something more than just following you. So, during these kind of events, try to be out of town or try staying at a friend’s house. Do not be alone and do not confront your stalker on your own!

These are some of the measures you may take when you feel like someone is stalking you. But keep in mind to never confront your stalker on your own, because it may cause bruises to his ego and it may turn him aggressive towards you. Leave the authorities do their job and meantime try to stay as safe as possible, away from him!