Secrets of the Trade: How to Turn Into a Dominatrix

Are you planning to extend your service list and rebrand yourself as a dominatrix? Then ladies, this article will help you discover the secrets of this wild erotic activity.

What is a dominatrix?

A dominatrix is a woman who is able to control her partner in a physical and mental way. A dominatrix uses role playing and sexual domination to keep her submissive clients hooked and eager for more.

We are going to help you better understand how to promote yourself when entering the dominatrix world, what accessories and type of clothes you will be needing and we are going to offer you some pointers regarding the way you’ll have to act in front of your submissive clients.

First of all, you need to figure it out if you are up for the task. So, think about the following personality traits that you have to possess:

1.      The proper attitude makes a dominatrix

Being a dominatrix is more about the right attitude then it is about clothes and the overall appearance. A dominatrix is always in control and always sure about her assets and skills. She has to inspire confidence and authority.

2.      Be confident

Always wear yourself proud and be confident in yourself. Keep in mind that you are in charge, you are the one that decides and has all the power.

3.      Be flexible and non-judgmental

As a dominatrix you’ll soon find out that all of your clients are different and have unique needs and expectations from you. So, keep yourself open minded, stay up to date with all the latest BDSM practices and do not judge your client by his quirks.

4.      Avoid sexual contact with your clients

An experienced dominatrix knows that in order to turn a client into a regular, teasing is the key. Tease him, always keep him hanging and wanting for more and avoid sexual contact.

5.      Start the date with a plan in mind

In the dominatrix world role-playing is a pretty important thing, that’s why you should have a plan of action since the moment you greet your client till the end of the date. This way you excite his imagination and create a story around your time together. Do not get out of character – maintain the story line and your posture.

Buy the right clothes and accessories

Another important aspect of being a dominatrix is the outfit. So here are some of the items that must be in your wardrobe when starting your dominatrix activity:

I.                    Leather bodysuit, dresses, corsets and boots

A full body leather or latex outfit it’s a must when you are a dominatrix. So ladies, start investing into a skin tight bodysuit. You can spice things up a little by adding into your wardrobe some slutty leather dresses, kinky, body fitting corsets and some thigh-high stiletto boots. Accessorize them with a pair of fishnet stockings, a latex hood and a pair of long leather gloves and you are good to go!

II.                  Get some special toys

In a dominatrix world, sexual toys are playing a vital part. So get ready to stock up on paddles, whips, crops, nipple clamps, electrode penis pads and ticklers.

Vary things a little by adding in your repertoire some mouth gags, blindfolds, collars for a leash, restraints for wrists and ankles and so on.

Learn the proper spanking technique

Spanking is a fun and exciting activity that can take place between a dominant and a submissive, that’s why mastering the proper spanking technique is very important. You get to spank your naughty submissive client in order to punish him for being a bad boy or you can excite him by spanking his bootie.

First of all, set a safe word in case things degenerate. This way you can better control the games you’re playing with your partner.

Warm up your partner first, with soft touches and spanks, instead of starting directly with hard spanking. Allow his but to get used to the spank and after a few slaps, increase the strength.

Build the anticipation between spanks by giving two-three spanks in a row and then stop and start it all over again.

Add some dirty talk to the spanking and you’ll surely have a winning combo!

This is just the beginners guide, that can help you better understand what being a dominatrix actually implies. So, get informed and start the dominant-submissive game, if you feel that this role suits you!